Archive for May, 2009

Dr. Sears

Have you read any of the books by Dr. William Sears?  There are about a million of them and, now that 2 of his sons are doctors too, it gets a little confusing.  But, William Sears is the author of my absolute favorite parenting books.  From The Baby Book to The Fussy Baby and Nighttime Parenting, Dr. Sears really helped me find and trust my parenting style.  What I love about his books is that they don’t tell you what to do.  They honor the fact that you are the expert on your own child.  They provide information and reassurance and help you find the right parenting answers for your family.  I recommend Nighttime Parenting  to anyone who asks me about helping their baby sleep through the night.  The truth is, the book won’t tell you how to get your baby to sleep through the night.  But, it will help you better understand baby’s normal sleep patterns.  It will help you better meet your child’s needs at night.  And it will help your family get the best rest it can.  I’m leery of any book or “expert” that claims it will solve anyone’s baby problems with a one-size-fits-all cure.   What a crock.  Our job as parents is to get to know our children and meet their needs in a healthy, loving way.  Dr. Sears helps parents learn to trust their babies and their parenting instincts.  I find his books very empowering and informative.

Check out some of the Sears books.  We have most of my favorites at Mom and Pop Place: The Baby Book (a great, gentle baby gift for new parents that may or may not share all your parenting philosophies), Nighttime Parenting, The Fanily Nutrition Book, The Fussy Baby……. 

A new favorite Sears book for me is The Vaccine Book by his son Robert Sears.  Possibly the only unbiased vaccine book I have read from either side.

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In defense of dandelions

051003_dandelions I like dandelions.  They are a beautiful shot of yellow at a time of year when we really need a little color.  The roadsides and parks are a rolling expanse of solid gold for a week every May.  Later in the summer, dandelions are usually the only green thing in my yard!  They don’t need any fertilizer or extra water.  Your dog (or chicken) can poop on them or dig them up and they will always come back.

It’s kind of funny how hard folks work to kill their dandelions.  The most ironic part is that dandelions bloom at the same time as all of our fancy daffodils.  Same color.  Same bloom time.  We even sow daffodils in our yards to peek up through the grass.  Like dandelions.  But daffodils are slightly more fickle.  They cost more money.  So they must be more desirable.  Everybody likes an underdog.  Dandelions will never be the underdog.  They will never be defeated.  You can spray and pull and dig and swear.   It will never work.   Dandelions will always win.

Forget the underdogs, I’m going with a winner.  The dandelions can have my yard.

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SPF 1,000,000,000

I get asked about sunscreen a lot, especially this time of year.  Mostly questions like “How come Mom and Pop Place runs out of sunscreen every spring?  Why don’t you plan ahead?”  I have no intelligent answer for that question, so I’ll focus on a different question: “What kind of sunblock do you use on your kids?”  People are looking for advice on how to deal with sun exposure with their young kids.  Everyone wants to protect their little ones from sunburn.  But what about Vitamin D?  And what about scary sunscreen chemicals?

There are two basic kinds of sunscreen.  There are chemical sunscreens that contain a compound like oxybenzone that absorbs UV rays.  There are also physical sunscreens that contain a compound like titanium dioxide that scatters the UV rays.    We only offer non-chemical sunscreens like California Baby at Mom and Pop Place.  There are some concerns about the safety of the chemicals in chemical sunscreens, especially in children.  Their tender skin absorbs everything you put on it.  And what their skin doesn’t absorb, they end up sucking off their hands!  I like California Baby because it contains natural, organic ingredients for sensitive skin.  It has no PABA or oxybenzone or octyl-methoxy-something.

SPF is a measure of how effective a sunscreen is.   The number tells you how much longer you can stay in the sun without burning.  So, if you normally burn after 10 minutes of sun exposure, an SPF of 30 will allow you to stay out for 300 minutes (5 hours) before you burn.  Most experts admit that anything  SPF 30 or above is pretty much the same.  SPF 100 offers no more real protection than SPF 30.  In fact, many countries prohibit marketing anything with an SPF above 30 because it’s so silly!  High SPFs really just give people a false sense of security.  They figure that if they use a SPF 60, they don’t have to worry about wearing a hat or staying out of the sun at high noon.  So, they stay out all day without re-applying sunscreen and they get exposed to more UV rays than if they had just used regular SPF 30 (but used it right).  Sunscreen is only effective if you use it right.  You should apply it before sun exposure and you should re-apply it every couple of hours throughout the day.

IMG_1703The question “What kind of sunblock do you use on your kids?”  is a tough one for me.  My kids are pretty dark-skinned and they don’t use sunblock unless we are spending the whole day at the beach.  I use sunblock on my face and shoulders if I’m out longer than a few hours, but I don’t tend to burn very much.  I love the sun.  I think kids should spend more time outside in the sun.  I’m afraid that our society has developed this pathological fear of the outdoors.  I agree that we have to protect ourselves from dangerous sun damage.  But, we NEED the sun.  We need it to make Vitamin D, which actually protects us from skin cancer.  Ironic, huh?  All this sunscreen usage is leading to Vitamin D deficiency, which can lead to higher rates of cancer.

When it comes to sun protection, I think a little common sense is the best tool.  Go ahead and use sunblock (the right way), but don’t forget that hats and sunglasses and stroller umbrellas are important methods of protection too.  The sun’s UV rays are strongest between 11AM and 2PM.  Perfect time for a nap inside, out of the sun!

Tan? Or just filthy?

By all means, let your kids play outside.  Let them get a little tan! Let them get covered in mud!  Let them crash their bikes!  Outside play has so many health benefits for kids.  I’m hard-pressed to believe that they are ever better off in the house, hiding from the sun.

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Wisconsin’s Biggest Baby Shower

BFK baby shower

My home for 8 hours on Monday.

I spent most of the day on Monday at Wisconsin’s Biggest Baby Shower in Appleton at The Building for Kids.  It’s massive event that brings together tons of businesses and professionals that serve new and expectant parents: doctors, toy stores, chiropractors, scrapbookers, doulas, you name it.   It’s like Mom and Pop Place’s Pregnancy Fair on steroids.  Mom and Pop Place hosted a booth to let people know about the products and services we offer.  It was great fun, but exhausting.  I loved talking to all the parents and professionals there but, after the 6th hour on my feet, I may have been going a little loopy.  I apologize to anyone who had to talk to me after about 5PM.

Last year, I brought Laureen (my cafe manager) with me to help out.   We had a blast but, it turns out, it was not really a 2-woman job.  This year, it was just me.  I set up my goodies, grabbed a stack of flyers, and got ready to schmooze.  It’s really a great chance to get the word out about Mom and Pop Place.  So many people said “Hey, I heard about that place.”  I hope that seeing us at the Baby Shower will give them the nudge to actually come check us out.  We don’t do any really formal advertising (like radio commercials or magazine ads).  Word of Mouth is such a powerful force in the new parent community.  Our customers really help us spread the word.  Nurses and Lactation Consultants have given us great publicity as well.  They know that we offer the things they recommend to their patients: discussion groups, well-fitted nursing bras, breastfeeding supplies. 

So, it was fun to meet so many new and expectant parents at the Baby Shower!  If you were one of the people I met, I hope you come and say “Hi” to us next time you’re in Neenah.

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Gage with his dirt.

Gage with his dirt.

10 cubic yards is a serious amount of dirt.  I can kill a massive amount of grass with 10 yards of dirt.   That’s my plan.  I have garden beds in my front yard.  Every year, I expand the beds and add more shrubs and perennials.  So, each year, we have less and less grass to mow!  Cutting our grass is a 3 hour ordeal and I’m sick of it.  Not sick of actually mowing it, cuz I don’t.  Just sick of giving up time with hubby so he can mow it.  He doesn’t mind mowing.  He looks at it as a workout.  He actually runs while he pushes the mower.  With our old-fashioned spinny-blade push-mower, he’s quite the spectacle.

So, this weekend, we had 10 yards of dirt delivered.  I had them drive right up into the middle of the front yard and dump it in the middle of the grass.  They asked me “Are you sure?” about 20 times.  I’m sure.  Now, it’s time to get out there and kill me some grass.

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Life Is Good

Today is Mother’s Day and I barely saw my kids.  They were playing with neighbors all afternoon.  They went back and forth between our yards and playrooms.  They even ate dinner over there.  Meanwhile, I worked in the yard, cleaned the kitchen, checked my email.  All those decadent things that non-parents take for granted.

I feel like, as my kids get older, life gets better and better.  I’ve loved every stage of their lives but, the older they get, the more fun we seem to have.  With a little baby, so much of your day is dedicated to just keeping your kids alive: diaper changes, nursing sessions, shoe-and-car-seat-fastenings.  Now, my kids are getting so independent!  They get their own snacks, make up their own games, and (sometimes) entertain themselves.  The Milestones of Independence for me are when my kids can:

1. Poop without help (preferably in a toilet).

2. Sleep through the night without help.

3. Put their shoes on without help.  (Maybe even take them off before they run through the kitchen.)

4. Fasten their seatbelts without help.

5. Pour a drink without help.

6. Put themselves to bed at night (we’re nowhere near this one yet).

There are a lot of things I miss about having little babies.  Ok, not a “lot”, but “some”. Each of the Milestones I mentioned represents giving up a duty that I won’t miss.  I know my kids still need me and love me.  I just don’t have to wipe their butts to show it.  I’m enjoying the unique, independent people that they are becoming.  As their personalities come through, our family feels more and more complete.

 

Happy Mother’s Day

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Business Hours

We’ve always had a challenge serving the needs of working parents (both customers and employees).  We want Mom and Pop Place to be the Place for all parents, whether they work in the home or outside the home.  Some people have requested that we stay open later in the evening or that we hold Pop-Ins later in the day to serve the needs of parents who work traditional hours outside the home.  On the other hand, we have found that parents who spend their day outside the home often just want to be home in the evenings!  All of us at Mom and Pop Place are working parents too, you know!

Most days, the store has been open 9 AM until 5:30PM.  About a year ago, we began staying open late (until 7) on Thursdays.  These hours seemed to provide options for most parents, regardless of where or when they work.  Lately, we have been seeing more and more parents rushing in right after work to pick something up before we close.  My AWESOME staff often keep the store open late to help these customers with bra-fittings and sling demos.  Obviously, there is a need for some later hours!

From now on, Mom and Pop Place is going to be open a little later on Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday.  Our hours will be:

Monday 9-6

Tuesday 9-6

Wednesday 9-6

Thursday 9-7

Friday 9-4

Saturday 9-3

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